To my Fabulous Females...

There’s a common misconception that women hate other women. That there’s always a sense of competition. A friend of mine has even gone far enough to say “Other women don’t like me. I don’t deal well with women because I’m so talented and beautiful, they’re jealous of me” Whatever her reasons are, (and this is a thinking person, mind you) I’m sure there has to be another point of view. Sure, we’re a little NotNice to each other at times, even downright Catty at others. But to generalise all women as pathological misogynists? Now that’s going to far, isn’t it? Isn’t it?

Let’s just examine it from my point of view (..my blog? Focus me?) I’m single. I live alone. I have a few issues with trust (..your common post-divorce trauma trivialities.. two sessions on the couch max.. hehehee) but other then that most people would say I’m a die hard optimist. I’d much rather believe that my cup is half full. Growing up, my male friends always outnumbered their female counterparts. But in the recent years that statistic has done a little cartwheel. Personal loss, it turns out, is a great bonding factor between us women.

But that’s exactly what separates the extraordinary from the trivial friendships. Personal loss. If the friendship already had a tinge of rivalry to it, then a friend's sudden tragic downfall, as well as her much admired recovery and quickly forgiven mistakes, must weigh heavily on the more ordinary friend, whereas the same circumstances must inevitably cause more viable friendships to blossom and strengthen.

And anyways, what is it with men analyzing friendships of the female persuasion?!? I thinketh it bes no more than a Ivy League adaptation of the common man’s affinity to watching cat fights. In all friendships there’s always zones and lines and equations. Can’t talk about your weight with X cos she’s fat, or for that matter boyfriends with Z, cos she don’t got one. There are always rules and regulations. As in all relationships, male or female. And women tend to show a lot more sensitivity when it comes to matters such as these.

In consensus, there will be great friendships and there will be mediocre ones. There will also be those that blow up in your face. But women can be fiercely loyal when it comes to defending their girlfriends and I thank heaven for each and every one of mine. Goddess bless and Goddess keep!